Self-Care, Self-Love, and Self-Improvement

“Be patient with yourself, nothing in nature blooms all year”

By now, you should have it all figured out, right?

After all, whenever you look at social media, it seems like everyone else does. (Was there a meeting we missed?)

Instead, your finsecurities and your anxiety are holding you back.

  • You dread Monday morning—starting on Sunday afternoon
  • You believe in body positivity—but can’t extend that same compassion to yourself
  • You can’t let go when you’ve made a mistake
  • You obsess over what you don’t have instead of enjoying what you do
  • You get trapped into comparing other people’s highlight reels with your everyday life

Sure you try to embrace yourself, following the sugar-coated mantras in self-help books that tell you to “be your own kind of beautiful” but you don’t fully feel it. And you feel almost a little guily that you don’t feel all the self-love our media tells us we’re “supposed” to feel.

I’ve been there…

When I started college, I identified as “the shy girl” because that’s who I’d always been. The thing is, I didn’t want to be known that way. I associated the word “shy” with “timid” and “boring.”

Meanwhile, everyone around me seemed outgoing and carefree, racking up one success after another.

With only a few semesters to go, I decided that I’d had enough. I started acknowledging the struggle I was bottling up.

What made the biggest difference in my mindset? Self-compassion.

I decided to meet myself where I was and actively choose to become my own best friend.

I stopped telling myself how I should or shouldn’t feel.

I embraced the messiness of my life and all my embarrassing flaws.

I made a vow that it was okay to be in a space where I didn’t absolutely love myself. But I was going to work on supporting her instead of fighting her.

Self-compassion is the first step towards self-love and self-improvement

Self-compassion is the willingness to accept yourself. It’s approaching your issues with a sense of understanding and kindness.

It’s discovering more about yourself and the person you want to be – all while learning how to stop hating the person you are right now.


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Authenticity isn’t just a buzzword. It’s something that you put into practice every day.

I believe that:

  • It’s okay not to be okay sometimes
  • You shouldn’t feel guilty about not loving your body 100% of the time
  • Self-love is a journey and not a destination you arrive at
  • Recovery isn’t linear—you’re going to zig and zag 

Let’s dive in together and do the work.